What’s Good About Divorce?

Divorce gets a bad rap most of the time.

It’s a huge loss; it’s a painful life crisis, sometimes traumatic, and often expensive. Yet as a friend said to me, “What I see now is that it would have been equally devastating had we stayed together.”

Many who have been divorced will attest to the good things about divorce.

Here are 9 good things:

1. It’s liberating. You don’t have to stay stuck in a relationship where your needs aren’t being met. You can get out of abusive relationships and free yourself from daily stress and anxiety.

As one man told me, “You only have one shot at this life. We tried everything to make the marriage work, but nothing helped. Why spend my short life in an unhappy relationship? When I was finally able to make the decision to leave, it was a relief.”

Another said, “Fortunately, there were no children involved unless you counted the two of us. Even though I was in my late 40s, I had never learned how to be in an intimate relationship, what my needs were, and how to let them be known, nor did my (then) husband know how to identify and express his needs…Read More